By Marc, a teacher who lived 5 years in Jakarta:You are an expat living in Jakarta involved in a relationship with an Indonesian girl?
Are you wondering how serious she is with you? We know that the bar scene in Indonesia is very adventurous, and though it is easy to meet a decent girl, you may also end up with someone whose only interest is to suck you dry.Ayam, man-eaters, etc..
There are a lot of expressions to designate these girls but my favourite term is "Professional Girlfriend": Her job, the one activity that earns her revenue, is to be your girlfriend, or to make you believe she is. And they are great at it because they are pros.
There are some easy things to spot in her behaviour that will help you guess if she's faking the whole thing or not. I listed 10 of them and I hope they will help you realize if yours is on the game or not:
1) You met your girlfriend in a bar in Jakarta: To be honest, if it was a massage parlour, a club in Kota, a bar in Blok M, or a karaoke, there is a 99% chance she is a fake. All girls there will be after your money. Your only chance is that she was in such a place by accident, but that never really happens.
2) Your Indonesian girlfriend protects her phone in an abnormal manner. My ex (which I found out was cheating) was behaving very strangely with her phone: First, the screen was locked with a password. It meant that if she wanted to call someone, she had to type a password first... a real pain in the ass don't you think? Then, wherever she would go, she would always, always take her phone with her: In the toilet, in the shower, in the kitchen... She would never forget it, and if she did, she would come back in a hurry to get it, and she would ask me, worried: Did you take a look at my phone? Clearly, I understand the concept of privacy, but such behaviour is a clear indicator that your Indonesian girl is hiding something.
3) She, who once cheated, will cheat again. If you believe that, then you can ask her about the previous men she was dating. I remember my ex was very confuse about it: She was telling me about her Dutch guy with whom she had been for 3 years, her American guy she had dated for 2 and a half year, her German guy that she had loved for 4 years, etc. She was only 24, but she had had lots of relationships, and long ones. The secret for that, I discovered, was that all of them were dated during the same period of 3 years, at the same time. Don't expect a girl who did that kind of cheating to be nicer with you!
4) She lies all the time to you and to other people. The reason for that is simple: It's hard to be deceptive, and when someone's life is a lie, he cannot always find good excuses for everything. She cannot keep track of all the lies she is saying because it is not possible for a normal human being. Normal girls don't lie because they don't have to and if you indo girlfriend is lying to you; it means that she is not behaving normally. This is not something you want.Be strict with her: First lie and she's out.
5) Another sign that can help you see if the girl you are dating is having multiple boyfriends: She refuses to talk to you about problems that make her mad/sad/depressed. Usually, she will say she has "problems at home", but don't take her word too seriously: Chances are she is angry because one of the expats she is dating stopped sending her money, or because she fought with her Indonesian guy.
6) When you meet your girlfriend's friends, you realize that all of them have a rich expat boyfriend, and most of them are cheating on him. When you talk about this to your girl, she demonstrates full support for her friends, and you even feel that she thinks it's normal. She will tell you that you are different, because your love is so special, etc.. Be smart and ask yourself if this is the kind of world you want to live in.
7) The sex part is tricky: It is very easy for a girl to fake orgasm, or at least pleasure. Also, it won't be difficult for her to make you believe she is attracted to you physically and that she enjoys having sex. I don't think you should put to much emphasis on it, but still, if you have the feeling that for her having sex with you is a chore, you are right to be suspicious. You may also see that she uses sex to get things from you or to make you forgive her. This is never a very good sign of a healthy relationship...
8) You feel in your gut that something is wrong. This is the most important sign of all. You feel that your Indonesian girl is not being faithful, for tons of reasons that adds up. You may be in love and you are doing everything you can to believe her lies, but it actually makes you feel down to think you can be that stupid. There are no reasons to feel ashamed because you love someone, even a bargirl/prostitute, but at one point, you need to protect yourself from your girlfriend because miracles don't happen: Trust your instinct, and make a courageous decision.
9) She is extremely jealous, and I mean jealous like crazy. She doesn't trust you one bit, and never gives you any freedom when you want to go out with your friends in bars or night clubs. Once again, it's not hard to understand her behaviour: How can you trust someone when you cannot be trusted?
10) She doesn't give a damn about you: She misses many of your calls, she does not reply to your emails, or she does not try to gain your trust... You feel you are giving her all the time but you don't get anything in return except sex once in a while (if she sees you're angry). This is not a normal relationship, stop listening to all her bullshit about love, and make an objective analysis of your relationship with her: Is this woman making you happy? What does she like about you exactly that other expats don't have? Do you feel that she values you?Jakarta is a decadent city:
Male expats cheat on their wife and they end up with local Indonesian women who cheat on them too. After 5 years leaving in Jakarta, I think I’ve heard 100 hundred of these stories. It is very common for anyone familiar with Jakarta nightlife. Prostitutes are not a precise category of the population like in Europe:
Things are more complicated: In any given night club in Jakarta, you will meet many girls who will be ready to sleep with you without giving too much thought about whether they like you or not: You are an expat, presumably rich, and they know they may get what she wants later. Those “prostitutes” do not look like hookers:
They are young, cute, and they seem so nice that it is hard to imagine what is behind their smiles: That doesn’t mean you should stop enjoying your time in Jakarta: If the sex with her is good and you are not emotionally attached, I say don't pay too much attention to it, but then protect yourself and do not fall in love.
However, if you are looking for a serious partner, then do not tolerate a relationship based on mistrust and lies.This is not an exhaustive list of all the signs that can exist showing your Indonesian girlfriend is cheating on you.
If you have experienced or observed on other expat/bargirl couples some behaviours that could help other readers determine how sincere their relationship is, please feel free to share with us!
Sunday, May 2, 2010
Continuing on…
When we got back to her room, we drank some beers (I more like down it, haha) and she put on some porn and gave me a little striptease….slowly undressing n then taking her top off and dancing in her g-string.
There after the rest was history. One horny bitch! She practically raped me. We did it 2 times but by then not only was I fucking tired (came twice earlier) and drunk, I was on my 4th round and we were already at it for a good 30+ mins, I just couldn’t cum and had to tell her to stop….
By the way, I didn’t pay a cent. GOD BLESS JAKARTA GIRLS
What a first night!!
2nd dayWe went to two spas. First stop was FM1 BOUTIQUE HOTEL, I think it’s the same as travel hotel that has been reported here.
This place only had locals and prcs. Quality nothing compared to alexisla but had a few ok looking locals. I opted to wait for my frens as I was saving my bullets for the next spa cost was very reasonable here.
2nd stop was malioboro hotel. We didn’t know they had 2 sections, one with just locals with a price tag of 350k, when we got there, we were told by the mummy that we were too late, only had a few available ones, apparently last call was 1230.
We got there at 1215. So a lot had gone home already. Cannot jalan la the ones working. When we walked out, I noticed a lounge with stripper poles n decided to go in for a drink since we were committed to the entrance fee 0f 150k regardless of whether we take any girls.
This was the 2nd section. they had locals, prcs, Mongolians, thais, Russians, Uzbeks and Spanish chicks. Since the prices for the imports were all the same price, I obviously opted to stick with white meat there were 1-2 so called thai models n they were priced at 2m which I thought was wayyy too overpriced.
To cut the story short I took a Russian who in my opinion is the hottest white chick I ever taken before. Looks wise 9.5/10, tall, slim with a killer ass. She wore a short tight dress that hugged her body. Gorgeous chick. She is hotter than some of the brazillian/euro models u see here at velvet. In short, great service, gfe and killer body. Cost 1.75m.
im getting very depressed writing this fr to u guys as I am dying to go back to jkt to see her again. Sigh….
When we got back to her room, we drank some beers (I more like down it, haha) and she put on some porn and gave me a little striptease….slowly undressing n then taking her top off and dancing in her g-string.
There after the rest was history. One horny bitch! She practically raped me. We did it 2 times but by then not only was I fucking tired (came twice earlier) and drunk, I was on my 4th round and we were already at it for a good 30+ mins, I just couldn’t cum and had to tell her to stop….
By the way, I didn’t pay a cent. GOD BLESS JAKARTA GIRLS
What a first night!!
2nd dayWe went to two spas. First stop was FM1 BOUTIQUE HOTEL, I think it’s the same as travel hotel that has been reported here.
This place only had locals and prcs. Quality nothing compared to alexisla but had a few ok looking locals. I opted to wait for my frens as I was saving my bullets for the next spa cost was very reasonable here.
2nd stop was malioboro hotel. We didn’t know they had 2 sections, one with just locals with a price tag of 350k, when we got there, we were told by the mummy that we were too late, only had a few available ones, apparently last call was 1230.
We got there at 1215. So a lot had gone home already. Cannot jalan la the ones working. When we walked out, I noticed a lounge with stripper poles n decided to go in for a drink since we were committed to the entrance fee 0f 150k regardless of whether we take any girls.
This was the 2nd section. they had locals, prcs, Mongolians, thais, Russians, Uzbeks and Spanish chicks. Since the prices for the imports were all the same price, I obviously opted to stick with white meat there were 1-2 so called thai models n they were priced at 2m which I thought was wayyy too overpriced.
To cut the story short I took a Russian who in my opinion is the hottest white chick I ever taken before. Looks wise 9.5/10, tall, slim with a killer ass. She wore a short tight dress that hugged her body. Gorgeous chick. She is hotter than some of the brazillian/euro models u see here at velvet. In short, great service, gfe and killer body. Cost 1.75m.
im getting very depressed writing this fr to u guys as I am dying to go back to jkt to see her again. Sigh….
Alexis Spa
From Mamak Special::::
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here is my 2 day report :)
arrived friday evening n it took us an hour to reach our service apt, cibai traffic in jkt is madness but nevertheless we were patient to the upcoming nite activities, hehe.
first up was alexis. almost every tom dick n harry i speak to tell me this is THE place to go. so it was our first stop of the night. alexis is located in the so called slums of jkt. from the outside it almost looks like an office building. the minute u get in, u r welcomed by a reception just like a hotel, to ur left is the club n upstairs u hve the spa and ktv. we proceeded to the spa immediately. decor n ambience of the spa is 9/10, very plush n nice.
now the girls.wont go in to the prices since most of the bros here have already reported it. yes it is expensive BUT from my years n years of cheonging, i must say their PRCs are the hottest I’ve seen in a long long time. im talking as good if not better than 18 spa [in my opinion better] in macau or shanghai. this is of course subjective. slim, fair, big tits (alot are fake tho) and syt face. how to find in KL la!
since i was in indo land, my first choice were obviously the locals but couldnt find any suitable ones as the hot ones were tapau already. so my next choice were either the prc'S or thais. they also had whites n koreans but whites so so only and the Koreans were jst too bloody expensive. i was super tempted to take the prcs but due to the many many bad experiences i had in the past, i opted for the thais. the thai chick i had was dressed to kill.
I wud rate her face as 7/10 but her body was a near 10. She wore one of those long dresses tat showed a ton of cleavage, one of those dresses with two pieces of cloth to cover the boobs n her boobs were aching to come out, at least d CUP man. BEH TAHAN LOR. With the two melons spilling out from her dress n tits bouncing when she walks, I jst had to hve her. Plus u can see her nipples protruding out as well. A sight to behold.
One thing I love about jkt spas is u are allowed to chill with the girl first, have a chat n a couple of drinks before u actually do the deed. Makes it sooo much more personal n fun. The clock only starts when u r in the room.
After a couple of beers, we proceeded to the public pool where my chick gave me a nice massage. Unfortunately not much action here as it was out in the public but I did manage to suck her tits for a few mins, hehe.
Went up to the room and that’s where the action started. I was sitting on the sofa, first she oiled her tits n gave me a nice tit job and licked me all over then she went to the bed n was all on fours rubbing her clit asking to come over. I can die there n then, her body was sooooo damn solid. A scene from a penthouse photo shoot I tell u. haha.
Anyways I couldn’t help it, daty for a few mins…so nice n sweet. Btw, her pussy is pink n fully shaven. YUM, getting a fuckin hardon writing this fr. There after she rode me slowly n very passionately. The sight of her boobs bouncing up n down with the huge mirrors in the room jst made me explode too damn fast she wanted another 500k for seconds but unfortunately I didn’t bring enuf $. But she was nice enuf to hj me for free which I had no objection too, haha. Combo of tit fucking, hj n her licking my nipples and reverse cow girl hj made me cum pretty darn quick she really knows how to turn u on lor. After the deed was done I went out n met up with my frens.
There after we decided to hit the club downstairs for a few drinks.
Apparently they hve strip shows here but by the time we were done with the spa, strip show over liao. Anyways this was a dance club n had quite a few of the spa n ktv girls here hanging around. I guess for them to unwind after a hard days work or for some to look for overnight packages.
There was this one local chick who was dancing very sexily up on stage n quite a few of the guys were hitting up on her. I think she was high on drugs or something. But she was cute n had a tight body n wore a fairly short dress and whenever she dirty danced on stage, could see a bit of her g-string.
After awhile I couldn’t tahan I had to go talk to her. Had some small talk n offered her some drinks and much to my surprise she hung out with me the rest of the night. Initially I thought for sure she was with someone else or would leave to entertain the other guys. She worked in the ktv upstairs.
The drinks in this club was damn expensive, I spend easily 150usd jst on loose drinks but it was well worth it because after 5+ glasses of whisky, the girl wanted to leave n ask me if I wanted to follow. Fuck ya, I said sure.
At that time mabuk n a bit horny, I didn’t think twice to follow her back to her place. I mean I cud’ve been robbed or murdered u know but lucky nothing happened. Went to a nearby 7-11 to get more booze n some condoms, hehe.
Got back to her place, it was a rented room.
Hey continue later, going out for lunch now.
Sorry for the lengthy fr, Im not much of a writer.
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here is my 2 day report :)
arrived friday evening n it took us an hour to reach our service apt, cibai traffic in jkt is madness but nevertheless we were patient to the upcoming nite activities, hehe.
first up was alexis. almost every tom dick n harry i speak to tell me this is THE place to go. so it was our first stop of the night. alexis is located in the so called slums of jkt. from the outside it almost looks like an office building. the minute u get in, u r welcomed by a reception just like a hotel, to ur left is the club n upstairs u hve the spa and ktv. we proceeded to the spa immediately. decor n ambience of the spa is 9/10, very plush n nice.
now the girls.wont go in to the prices since most of the bros here have already reported it. yes it is expensive BUT from my years n years of cheonging, i must say their PRCs are the hottest I’ve seen in a long long time. im talking as good if not better than 18 spa [in my opinion better] in macau or shanghai. this is of course subjective. slim, fair, big tits (alot are fake tho) and syt face. how to find in KL la!
since i was in indo land, my first choice were obviously the locals but couldnt find any suitable ones as the hot ones were tapau already. so my next choice were either the prc'S or thais. they also had whites n koreans but whites so so only and the Koreans were jst too bloody expensive. i was super tempted to take the prcs but due to the many many bad experiences i had in the past, i opted for the thais. the thai chick i had was dressed to kill.
I wud rate her face as 7/10 but her body was a near 10. She wore one of those long dresses tat showed a ton of cleavage, one of those dresses with two pieces of cloth to cover the boobs n her boobs were aching to come out, at least d CUP man. BEH TAHAN LOR. With the two melons spilling out from her dress n tits bouncing when she walks, I jst had to hve her. Plus u can see her nipples protruding out as well. A sight to behold.
One thing I love about jkt spas is u are allowed to chill with the girl first, have a chat n a couple of drinks before u actually do the deed. Makes it sooo much more personal n fun. The clock only starts when u r in the room.
After a couple of beers, we proceeded to the public pool where my chick gave me a nice massage. Unfortunately not much action here as it was out in the public but I did manage to suck her tits for a few mins, hehe.
Went up to the room and that’s where the action started. I was sitting on the sofa, first she oiled her tits n gave me a nice tit job and licked me all over then she went to the bed n was all on fours rubbing her clit asking to come over. I can die there n then, her body was sooooo damn solid. A scene from a penthouse photo shoot I tell u. haha.
Anyways I couldn’t help it, daty for a few mins…so nice n sweet. Btw, her pussy is pink n fully shaven. YUM, getting a fuckin hardon writing this fr. There after she rode me slowly n very passionately. The sight of her boobs bouncing up n down with the huge mirrors in the room jst made me explode too damn fast she wanted another 500k for seconds but unfortunately I didn’t bring enuf $. But she was nice enuf to hj me for free which I had no objection too, haha. Combo of tit fucking, hj n her licking my nipples and reverse cow girl hj made me cum pretty darn quick she really knows how to turn u on lor. After the deed was done I went out n met up with my frens.
There after we decided to hit the club downstairs for a few drinks.
Apparently they hve strip shows here but by the time we were done with the spa, strip show over liao. Anyways this was a dance club n had quite a few of the spa n ktv girls here hanging around. I guess for them to unwind after a hard days work or for some to look for overnight packages.
There was this one local chick who was dancing very sexily up on stage n quite a few of the guys were hitting up on her. I think she was high on drugs or something. But she was cute n had a tight body n wore a fairly short dress and whenever she dirty danced on stage, could see a bit of her g-string.
After awhile I couldn’t tahan I had to go talk to her. Had some small talk n offered her some drinks and much to my surprise she hung out with me the rest of the night. Initially I thought for sure she was with someone else or would leave to entertain the other guys. She worked in the ktv upstairs.
The drinks in this club was damn expensive, I spend easily 150usd jst on loose drinks but it was well worth it because after 5+ glasses of whisky, the girl wanted to leave n ask me if I wanted to follow. Fuck ya, I said sure.
At that time mabuk n a bit horny, I didn’t think twice to follow her back to her place. I mean I cud’ve been robbed or murdered u know but lucky nothing happened. Went to a nearby 7-11 to get more booze n some condoms, hehe.
Got back to her place, it was a rented room.
Hey continue later, going out for lunch now.
Sorry for the lengthy fr, Im not much of a writer.
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